In the past two days I have come to a massive conclusion about myself. Well I guess it really isnt that crazy, but in my current situation in life its something big and very relevant. After spending an entire winter break farrrrr too emotionally involved in my friends problems, I realized that I am very similar to Cher (Clueless) or Emma. I get so worked up in my friends lives, and I really just need to focus on myself. This thought expanded to the realization that I am really really judgmental on my friends.I have always been a judgmental person and in the past i have gotten some major shit from times when my intentions were misunderstood. I really dont want that happening anymore. The important concept to take away from this discovery is this: what is right for me is not necessarily right for my friends. I have always only wanted what is best for my friends and i have become overwhelmingly frustrated when they arent doing exactly what I want, which is the stupidest thing ever because obviously everyone needs to figure these things out for themselves. I see and hear about them hurting themselves and I automatically form these giant proclamations on how to solve their problems and fix their lives, but for the most part these issues will work themselves out and prove to be positive learning experiences. Furthermore I am going to tone it down a bit so as not to cause unnecessary problems. I have always been a very opinionated and vocal person, but I dont think its always that helpful, especially if my friends dont want to hear about it… or maybe its more they dont need to hear about it. Everyone needs to figure out life for themselves and there are different paths to take.

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